College Counseling: Our Public Health Announcement!By Daryl CapuanoCollege Advice
The Learning Consultants is in the midst of helping clients through the college process. Helping clients shop for colleges and maximize their admissions chances provides the majority of our work. But we also seem to provide a public health service to stressed out parents and teens.
The college process is horribly stressful to most parents and most students, particularly in affluent communities like the Connecticut suburbs. Taking the SATs/ACTs, writing college essays and applications, worrying about rejections and… the big elephant in the room…your baby is moving away. Terrible stuff.
Nonetheless, if this is your family’s biggest challenge, then consider yourself beyond lucky.
If your child is going to college, then things have likely worked out well. Certainly, there are alternatives to college and some sensibly choose other directions.
Things Have Turned Out Well
If you are from suburban Connecticut, particularly places like Shoreline, CT, it is likely that you hoped that your child would be college bound. Congratulations and good fortune are in order. Your child did well enough in school, was sufficiently motivated, has good character and so forth to be college bound. There are countless families that we’ve counseled in the last few years who are wondering if it makes sense to send their child to college because of poor grades, work habits, and character.
College Is Great
You are sending your child to the young adult version of Disney World. Would you go back to college? Of course! Tremendous freedom. Limited real world responsibility. Great opportunities to learn, meet new people, have new experiences, all in a reasonably controlled environment (at least compared to moving to New York or Boston at 18).
Considering all that plagues most families throughout the world, the college process is minor. Any family that has gone through a real challenge like a death in the family or a bitter divorce or extended financial problems knows real problems from contrived ones.
The college process is a problem of abundance. You are very lucky to have such a problem.